Do not hide behind your shadow!

Posted: October 31, 2012 in cookies
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Have you ever been in a situation where someone said something to you, and instead of responding, you stayed quiet and smiled? I use to be one of those people that would smile and nod my head when someone said something intimidating to me and I had no response. It’s crazy how this world works. I am going to share my experience and you can either accept it or not, but let’s see if we can get a good discussion out of it.

As a young adult, I was considered soft spoken and noble. I would not dare respond to anyone especially a possible threat to me. I would simply accept the fault, either mine or the complainant and accept it and move on. However, as I grew up, I realized that more and more problems occur to me when I respond to them in this matter. So after a few life lessons, I decided to respond and demand things that are within my rights. Life seems to be more in tune with the way I operate when I respond to them accordingly. I realized that people cannot guess how I feel and what I want if I don’t ask for it.

What I suggest for everyone.

Since people cannot read minds and most people do not have emotional knowledge (people that can look for signs of how a person is doing emotionally and anticipate what they mind need) then what’s left is to simply speak up. If you are feeling annoyed about a specific thing at work, speak up. Simply call a meeting with your immediate supervisor and express your concerns. The more you let others know how you feel, the smoother your life will be. The less anger will build and less stress you would deal with. It does not matter the type of person you are. The less people speak, the more others take advantage of.

What I have noticed…

There was a time where two brothers lived together in a family of four. One of the brothers was demanding, even as a child. He would want everything when he went shopping with his mother and refuse to understand financial situations and how things work. The other brother was softer spoken. Thought four times before he asked for anything and refused to be a bother to anyone. Guess who had a more happy childhood. The demanding child got whatever he wanted and was happier than the other one. What they say is very true. Ignorance is really bliss. He never understood or simply didn’t care.

Refuse to understand and take what you need. We are all still animals with a mask we choose to wear. Some refuse to wear it and show their animal side. Others choose to hold higher values and standards. The one that uses the animal side and demands their rights wins in the end.

  1. lsotera says:

    Haha. This is serious conversation bait. What a controversial idea.

    What you’re saying is true, but if you’re living by the philosophy that life is about being a good person, not winning, then being demanding and getting what you want isn’t going to satisfy your deeper needs.

    • According to Maslows theory, you must already achieve the “winning title” to consider something deeper.

      Thnx for your comment :

      • lsotera says:

        Yeah and I think it is a basic step toward the whole self-actualization thing, but to grow it’s seems more like something you should get past instead of foster. Like leaving the id behind and moving towards the super-ego, in Freudian terms. Mental maturity usually requires that you put more basic and childish needs behind you.

        I’m not trying to be irriating, I just like a good discussion.

  2. alexxrae says:

    So honest and true! This is so easy to understand, and seems easy to implement, but the reality is much more intricate. Thanks!

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