Posts Tagged ‘life’

Last week I read this article about communication and how lack of communication causes major issues in relationships. I must completely and utterly agree with this statement. If my (friend, partner, wife, girlfriend) does not know how I feel, what I need, and what I want my life to look like in the next three to five years. It’s really amazing how many couples go weeks before they have a moment to discuss these three questions.

What kind of motion does this question really bring to the table? Consider this for a second. If my partner does not know how I feel today, then my irritated state of mind might offend her and she will have no idea why I snapped. Furthermore, if I don’t know what my partner is thinking about, I cannot help her through her hard times. There are specific’s about these questions that requires attention from both couples. The second question in particular. What you need as a person should be expressed so your partner and you are on the same page. The problem arises and deepens when your partner does not know what you are expecting of her. Same applies for women that expect certain stuff out of their man. Expectation brings responsibilities and what I have seen so far in life, most people are not responsible. That were we get fights, breakups, and approximately 55% divorce rate in the United States. The lack of communication causes issues in the relation and creates problems. The last question  focuses on your higher motives in life. Where you want your life to be simply address your goals and dreams. For example, if your wife has a goal of opening up a small flower shop in the next five years, and you know this. This will help you both to stay motivated with the financing, show how much you care, and can allow you to discover how well you work together. A couple that work well together can go beyond the petty daily discussions and become something more.

Communication is the key to success I read once. We as people should do a better job communicating our thoughts, feelings, and ideas. It’s how others know what we want, and prove to us how they can be the people we need them to be.

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Have you ever been in a situation where someone said something to you, and instead of responding, you stayed quiet and smiled? I use to be one of those people that would smile and nod my head when someone said something intimidating to me and I had no response. It’s crazy how this world works. I am going to share my experience and you can either accept it or not, but let’s see if we can get a good discussion out of it.

As a young adult, I was considered soft spoken and noble. I would not dare respond to anyone especially a possible threat to me. I would simply accept the fault, either mine or the complainant and accept it and move on. However, as I grew up, I realized that more and more problems occur to me when I respond to them in this matter. So after a few life lessons, I decided to respond and demand things that are within my rights. Life seems to be more in tune with the way I operate when I respond to them accordingly. I realized that people cannot guess how I feel and what I want if I don’t ask for it.

What I suggest for everyone.

Since people cannot read minds and most people do not have emotional knowledge (people that can look for signs of how a person is doing emotionally and anticipate what they mind need) then what’s left is to simply speak up. If you are feeling annoyed about a specific thing at work, speak up. Simply call a meeting with your immediate supervisor and express your concerns. The more you let others know how you feel, the smoother your life will be. The less anger will build and less stress you would deal with. It does not matter the type of person you are. The less people speak, the more others take advantage of.

What I have noticed…

There was a time where two brothers lived together in a family of four. One of the brothers was demanding, even as a child. He would want everything when he went shopping with his mother and refuse to understand financial situations and how things work. The other brother was softer spoken. Thought four times before he asked for anything and refused to be a bother to anyone. Guess who had a more happy childhood. The demanding child got whatever he wanted and was happier than the other one. What they say is very true. Ignorance is really bliss. He never understood or simply didn’t care.

Refuse to understand and take what you need. We are all still animals with a mask we choose to wear. Some refuse to wear it and show their animal side. Others choose to hold higher values and standards. The one that uses the animal side and demands their rights wins in the end.

 

Let’s consider the basics of life when we analyze life in the Los Angeles area. It’s very strange how the government thinks an average family of 4 that makes more than thirty thousand dollars is in a category that they should not be able to participate in federal funded programs that help low income families survive. Let’s start by analyzing how an average family can survive and the quality of life they are presumed to have with that income.

To understand the epidemic we are faced each day at the labor market (Job market) we must understand the cost of living vs the average hourly rate of any employee. After being unemployed for little over a year I searched for jobs and paid close attention to what they were willing to pay for the job that needed to be done. What I discovered was that average paying job,  was ten dollars a hour. Lets multiply that by 160 hours a month, and we have a monthly rate of 1600$. Sure that must feel a lot to someone living in a Africa, or some third world country, but here in the states that’s like absolutely nothing to survive with. Considering the average commute would cost a person only in gas approximately 200$ a month depending on what you are driving, that leaves you with less than 1400$ to live. Let’s assume you live in a very unsafe area, your average rate for rent would be 800$. Now add a few utilities like electricity, water, gas, and maybe a telephone and you are looking at a total of 300$. That leaves you with less than 300$ for food, clothing, the little things that make life interesting.

The point of this article is to raise awareness of the fact that most people in America live very close to these standards. Always no money, angry, frustrated, and if they are have kids, very tired. It really is not fair that we have charities for people outside of the United States, when the money they raise for charities can be used to create new jobs, help boost pay. I know we recently got a increase in the minimum wage, but that does no justice for the dramatic increase in inflation. Milk went from 2$ to 5$ in 2 years. We should be focusing on how to help society grow and develop in the United States and once we are secure, happy, healthy, and well taken care of, only then we should worry about countries like Libya, Iran, and the middle east.

I read somewhere a quote that keeps coming to me.

Help yourself, so when the time comes and you can help other, you are able to..  –  unknown.

Lately i been doing some thinking regarding how life really works. I tend to get this way when i am entering  a new chapter in my life. The topic of discussion is how time works and how valuable it is for our society and specifically me.

What is time? Time is a man made invention to keep track of our lives on earth. Its strange how we created such a thing to keep track of the minutes and hours of the day, but so many of us, including myself spend majority of it wasted. I picture the amount of time that i spend on the computer simply browsing the web. How about the hours spend on online gaming. How come I dont put my time to good use and do something productive? Is it strange that majority of the people i know if they are not working, they are wasting away their time doing mindless things? Am i the only one concerned about this. I feel like its only in America that we spend our time so foolishly. I heard stories of the Asian culture putting more time and energy in studying important stuff that will one day help us reach unbelievable heights. Us on the other hand, fail to even graduated our pathetic public school system. How sad is that really..

There is a solution my friends. It takes 1 simple class with a devoted teacher to express how important time really is. I believe the first 12 years of schooling for most Americans should be about the essence of life with the basics of English and mathematics. What our public school system has failed is to motivate its crew (students) to reach out and think outside the box. Develop something new or even venture off into the distance for new discoveries and more.

How can you motivate our youth to use their time wisely for something much more important than TV or Internet? I believe to teach our youth the value of time and how short we have to create something important or simply make a difference in our world can dramatically help with the motivation to do more. Our ancestors knew the value of time, because they were the ones who created it. Now that we have time, and plenty of it, we choose to waste it away. I am here to tell you to use it for good, and use it to help people discover new things and learn something new.

Average time spent on earth is roughly 73 years old depending on who you ask in the United States. With that said, we are increasing our life expectancy every year. What for? Most inventors and astrologist have done and discovered far more within their 40-50 year life cycle than we have in our 75 year. Every new generation our productivity drops lower and lower. Our attention span follows at a striking rate.

 

Make use of your time!

To start off your journey,

So early in the morning,

One must choose to wear,

The shoes of his yearning.

 

The children dread school,

Adults have no choice,

We all must work,

To ensure our place,

In this worlds.

 

In order to make it,

Society must take it,

Fake it and break it,

To simply recreate it.

 

What we see is not what we get,

Most days of the week.

To understand is not to know,

The unexpected surprises of life that tends leaks.

 

Society says “stop thinking and just live”,

How can I do that, when im still just a kid.

Determined to make it at all costs,

To battle and win even if I am lost.

Image your life,

a journey through your passed.

All the people you have met,

the lives you have touched.

 

We take it for granted,

how much influence people may have.

The crazy family member,

the unreasonable boss.

 

But how can we manage,

societies curve balls.

The bumps on the road,

that keep me awake.

 

To understand what I mean,

you must choose the right shoe.

You wouldn’t know which is right,

till you journey through,

and wake up in a coffin,

one dark afternoon.

 

What if i told you a story, 

A story of dreams and desires.

What if i told you a story, 

A story of great proportion.

There was a young boy, 

That grew up in the streets.

The streets full of despair

and misery alike. 

There was a bright light, 

a shimmery glow.

The desire to succeed, 

given to him only at birth. 

The boy grew up willing, 

To struggle and fight.

He believed in the good, 

with every breath he took. 

Today he is grown, 

and life is not willing.

The daily struggles of existence, 

seems to haunt him much more.

Somewhere in time, 

he forgot what it was, 

to be living and free, 

in the streets of Hollywood hills. 

In his final hours,

surrounded by family and friends. 

He cried out for the heavens, 

to take him away.

He remembered his childhood, 

In the streets, in such despair,

Thinking to himself how he could, 

simply live once again. 

With his final last breath,

He finally remembered, 

the glow of existence,

he remembered, and left.