Posts Tagged ‘love’

Last week I read this article about communication and how lack of communication causes major issues in relationships. I must completely and utterly agree with this statement. If my (friend, partner, wife, girlfriend) does not know how I feel, what I need, and what I want my life to look like in the next three to five years. It’s really amazing how many couples go weeks before they have a moment to discuss these three questions.

What kind of motion does this question really bring to the table? Consider this for a second. If my partner does not know how I feel today, then my irritated state of mind might offend her and she will have no idea why I snapped. Furthermore, if I don’t know what my partner is thinking about, I cannot help her through her hard times. There are specific’s about these questions that requires attention from both couples. The second question in particular. What you need as a person should be expressed so your partner and you are on the same page. The problem arises and deepens when your partner does not know what you are expecting of her. Same applies for women that expect certain stuff out of their man. Expectation brings responsibilities and what I have seen so far in life, most people are not responsible. That were we get fights, breakups, and approximately 55% divorce rate in the United States. The lack of communication causes issues in the relation and creates problems. The last question  focuses on your higher motives in life. Where you want your life to be simply address your goals and dreams. For example, if your wife has a goal of opening up a small flower shop in the next five years, and you know this. This will help you both to stay motivated with the financing, show how much you care, and can allow you to discover how well you work together. A couple that work well together can go beyond the petty daily discussions and become something more.

Communication is the key to success I read once. We as people should do a better job communicating our thoughts, feelings, and ideas. It’s how others know what we want, and prove to us how they can be the people we need them to be.

Have you ever been in a situation where someone said something to you, and instead of responding, you stayed quiet and smiled? I use to be one of those people that would smile and nod my head when someone said something intimidating to me and I had no response. It’s crazy how this world works. I am going to share my experience and you can either accept it or not, but let’s see if we can get a good discussion out of it.

As a young adult, I was considered soft spoken and noble. I would not dare respond to anyone especially a possible threat to me. I would simply accept the fault, either mine or the complainant and accept it and move on. However, as I grew up, I realized that more and more problems occur to me when I respond to them in this matter. So after a few life lessons, I decided to respond and demand things that are within my rights. Life seems to be more in tune with the way I operate when I respond to them accordingly. I realized that people cannot guess how I feel and what I want if I don’t ask for it.

What I suggest for everyone.

Since people cannot read minds and most people do not have emotional knowledge (people that can look for signs of how a person is doing emotionally and anticipate what they mind need) then what’s left is to simply speak up. If you are feeling annoyed about a specific thing at work, speak up. Simply call a meeting with your immediate supervisor and express your concerns. The more you let others know how you feel, the smoother your life will be. The less anger will build and less stress you would deal with. It does not matter the type of person you are. The less people speak, the more others take advantage of.

What I have noticed…

There was a time where two brothers lived together in a family of four. One of the brothers was demanding, even as a child. He would want everything when he went shopping with his mother and refuse to understand financial situations and how things work. The other brother was softer spoken. Thought four times before he asked for anything and refused to be a bother to anyone. Guess who had a more happy childhood. The demanding child got whatever he wanted and was happier than the other one. What they say is very true. Ignorance is really bliss. He never understood or simply didn’t care.

Refuse to understand and take what you need. We are all still animals with a mask we choose to wear. Some refuse to wear it and show their animal side. Others choose to hold higher values and standards. The one that uses the animal side and demands their rights wins in the end.

To know where you came from,

will determine how far you get in life.

Since I started off in the gutters,

I was promised struggle and fear.

 

As a child of nearly seven,

learning to survive is to save,

because without education you are nothing,

and without money you cannot escape.

 

Many nights of confusion,

led me to believe,

life as I knew it had to change,

before we sunk deeper into this mess.

 

I grew up wondering,

what path I was destine to take.

Society didn’t make it easy,

lost opportunities denied,

denied at birth.

 

One day I discovered this opportunity,

to leave this place I once knew as home.

I studied real hard to pass the test,

with the idea of me leaving this place.

 

With my luck I passed,

was given the opportunity to leave this place,

to study aboard and succeed,

I was choosen out hundreds.

 

Since destine is established at birth,

there is nothing you can really do.

I was told I was too young,

and we could not afford to commute.

 

After the heart has been broken,

its difficult to piece it back together.

The beginning of the end was written,

predetermined, and pre decided.

 

When money starts to fall,

like the greatest season of them all.

Working hard from the ashes of them all,

with disguises of different faces when they call.

 

What we do is not something great,

its simply to pay the bills and skate,

until we discover the true calling of tomorrow,

we strive for remodeling when we holler.
Customers tend to realize,

when we call and call and compromise,

the true nature of our intention and our goodbyes,

the simple calls we place almost every night.

 

To give in is to accept,

the true nature of our ideology we kept,

Try and try and you shall succeed,

if it all fails, we shall one day see.

 

Stop bothering us telemarketers because one day you will be home and awaken with a phone call that you did not want or need.

To build is a passion,

So full of reaction,

In an economy driven,

world full of creation.

 

Building creates jobs,

Driven by pure obsession.

Society has developed,

Developed into a creation.

 

People don’t see,

The true rulers of society.

Because they hide behind billboards,

Marketing the illusion of democracy.

 

Let’s take the time,

And really consider.

If we don’t act now,

We would surely dimension.

 

VOTE FOR THE BEST MAN FOR THE JOB!

To start off your journey,

So early in the morning,

One must choose to wear,

The shoes of his yearning.

 

The children dread school,

Adults have no choice,

We all must work,

To ensure our place,

In this worlds.

 

In order to make it,

Society must take it,

Fake it and break it,

To simply recreate it.

 

What we see is not what we get,

Most days of the week.

To understand is not to know,

The unexpected surprises of life that tends leaks.

 

Society says “stop thinking and just live”,

How can I do that, when im still just a kid.

Determined to make it at all costs,

To battle and win even if I am lost.

Chasing the sun,

early morning Saturday.

Chasing the sun,

for a little glimpse of freedom.

 

The limitless energy,

the bright orange glow,

astonishes the mind,

frees the soul.

 

Wild thoughts emerge,

energy fills the body.

To reach outside the box,

to reach for something greater.

 

Greatness was once a given,

The promise of greatness was written,

a glimpse in the future,

a glimpse of something greater.

 

Now I see, what I was destined to be,

a son of taxi driver,

a designer, an builder.

 

Follow your dreams,

let it take you to the ends of the world.

Because if you dont travel,

you will never know,

and life would just be you viewing the next big thing

at the department store.