Posts Tagged ‘pyschology’

The morning of the darkest night,

you sit and look at me so hopeless.

The thoughts of this chapter,

still haunts me every day.

 

The cold eyes you stare,

why must I be this way.

Why must we live this way,

why must we accept.

 

The mistakes that led me here,

so desperate and alone.

Remind the ones that use to love me,

let them believe there was some good in me.

 

Im going to leave this pedant here,

just in case you cared to find it.

The disappointment I brought to you,

the life you could have had.

 

So this is it,

the chapter that we have started.

The chapter that led me to this road,

that I must answer for when im gone.

Have you ever been in a situation where someone said something to you, and instead of responding, you stayed quiet and smiled? I use to be one of those people that would smile and nod my head when someone said something intimidating to me and I had no response. It’s crazy how this world works. I am going to share my experience and you can either accept it or not, but let’s see if we can get a good discussion out of it.

As a young adult, I was considered soft spoken and noble. I would not dare respond to anyone especially a possible threat to me. I would simply accept the fault, either mine or the complainant and accept it and move on. However, as I grew up, I realized that more and more problems occur to me when I respond to them in this matter. So after a few life lessons, I decided to respond and demand things that are within my rights. Life seems to be more in tune with the way I operate when I respond to them accordingly. I realized that people cannot guess how I feel and what I want if I don’t ask for it.

What I suggest for everyone.

Since people cannot read minds and most people do not have emotional knowledge (people that can look for signs of how a person is doing emotionally and anticipate what they mind need) then what’s left is to simply speak up. If you are feeling annoyed about a specific thing at work, speak up. Simply call a meeting with your immediate supervisor and express your concerns. The more you let others know how you feel, the smoother your life will be. The less anger will build and less stress you would deal with. It does not matter the type of person you are. The less people speak, the more others take advantage of.

What I have noticed…

There was a time where two brothers lived together in a family of four. One of the brothers was demanding, even as a child. He would want everything when he went shopping with his mother and refuse to understand financial situations and how things work. The other brother was softer spoken. Thought four times before he asked for anything and refused to be a bother to anyone. Guess who had a more happy childhood. The demanding child got whatever he wanted and was happier than the other one. What they say is very true. Ignorance is really bliss. He never understood or simply didn’t care.

Refuse to understand and take what you need. We are all still animals with a mask we choose to wear. Some refuse to wear it and show their animal side. Others choose to hold higher values and standards. The one that uses the animal side and demands their rights wins in the end.

 

Have you ever wondered how your life might be if you had two opinions of everything? It is a pretty strange question when you look at it carefully. If you have not noticed, I am talking about people with multiple personalities. When I was younger I thought it was strange when I watched a movie of a man in the mental asylum where he heard voices and spoke to himself. It baffled me how people like this existed in society. I was by far too young to understand mental diseases and to comprehend the fact that people’s mind can get sick.

As a grown, respected part of society, I realized that this is more common among adults that work in a highly stressful job site. Consider this; most people do not know that they can do pretty much anything they want in this life. There is not a thing in this world that should stop you from achieving your goals and becoming the person you are meant to be. I found this to be true, and realized it’s all in your head. When a person decides that it’s not going to work out for him or limits himself in his or her head, then that’s all they will ever amount too. It’s strange how our brains and fantasies can control outcomes and how successful we can become.

Let get back on track and discuss why two opinions are better than one. You always have someone to keep you company and provide both positive and negative feedback. In addition to feedback, it can provide support to anything you may want to do. Consider yourself going to an important meeting and you want to discuss a possible scenario. What do you do? Talking to yourself can give you that leverage you need and the preparation you should have when going into an important meeting. It’s just another way to prepare yourself and give you the confidence you need to get the job done.

 

In today’s society, more often I notice that people do not have the attention span to listen to a conversation from start to finish. Let’s take the time to really focus in on why this is becoming an epidemic and how we can try to combat this issue.

Where the problem arisen from?

Let’s imagine ourselves about two thousand years ago. Some of us were running in the jungles chasing animals for food and clothing. Others were picking berries in the fields trying to survive in a much dangerous world. We even had some in caves trying to build a life for themselves. The point I am trying to make here is that everyone had to have sharp concentration in whatever they were doing because danger lurked in every corner. Being attacked by bears, lions, and etc. was very common a few thousand years ago. In today’s society, most developed countries do not possess any real danger for communities in large cities. These people get bombarded with current events, advertisements, and Hollywood lifestyle to worry about any danger or keep their thoughts in line. Not only does our brain no longer feel the need to keep itself active and alert on things happening around you, it begins to deteriorate over time.

Attempts at fixing the problem?

In my attempts at fixing this epidemic for myself, I been trying everything that I can find on this matter. I tried online multiplayer video games for attention practice. The focus was there for approximately 20 min but anything after that, I lost interest. Furthermore, I tried discussing this issue with psychiatrists about my attention issue. What I was referred to was medications that will simply make me active beyond control. I read side effects and discovered that it will disrupt sex life and sleep. Who really needs that? I rather have my thoughts chasing each other than simply lose it all together.  That leaves you with very few options on how to combat this creeping epidemic . The best solution that I found was to keep things short in the beginning and build tolerance for it. Example, if you are trying to read a book, and its not working, try taking a short break and coming back to it. Each time you come back try adding 10 min to it and see how that works. I got around to 2 hours without stopping at a given moment. Another suggestion, try to convince yourself that whatever you are doing is helpful and fun for you. You be surprised by the results if this method works for you.  You be surprised by the results if this method works for you.

Good luck and would like to hear from you on how you are dealing with this issue.

To wake early and feel the desire,

The inner glow of motivation,

So simple and untapped.

 

I see the distance, the world from a reserved flower,

Fear has entrapped me, tangled me, and grabbed me,

Unable to venture, unable to wonder.

 

The simple troubles of the near and forgotten,

The clouds of stress that follow.

Never leaving my side like a trusted companion,

Failure to break the path that has been given.

 

In order for me to succeed,

I must venture off and discover the real me.

To break the cycle we are once lured,

The easy life that we were thought to exist when we were a child.

 

Now we must dream the big dreams,

And truly believe.

Because faith in ourselves can determine,

Success or defeat.

The road that takes us,

To the ends of the earth.

The road that follows,

So mystically close.

 

We follow each other,

Like the sheep’s we are intended to be.

The endless road of misery,

We yearn to keep.

 

To seek out new things,

Your friends might laugh.

To wonder where life,

May venture us thus far

 

The light at the end,

The end that may follow.

To seek out the justice,

And carry the fallen.

Communication

Why has computers,

and cellphones,

and mobile devices,

becoming such a hit?

Is it the struggle,

to be socially connected,

to be part of a solution,

rather then socially evicted?

To simply share,

a crazy wonder.

To express ones feelings,

of dirt and awkward somber”s

Lets develop a method,

a revolutionary connection,

ways that people,

have never thought out for.

Something more then just words,

a real sense of completion,

inner most feelings,

of beauty and acceptance.

Disconnect from your Phones and connect with people you love!