Posts Tagged ‘story’

Last week I read this article about communication and how lack of communication causes major issues in relationships. I must completely and utterly agree with this statement. If my (friend, partner, wife, girlfriend) does not know how I feel, what I need, and what I want my life to look like in the next three to five years. It’s really amazing how many couples go weeks before they have a moment to discuss these three questions.

What kind of motion does this question really bring to the table? Consider this for a second. If my partner does not know how I feel today, then my irritated state of mind might offend her and she will have no idea why I snapped. Furthermore, if I don’t know what my partner is thinking about, I cannot help her through her hard times. There are specific’s about these questions that requires attention from both couples. The second question in particular. What you need as a person should be expressed so your partner and you are on the same page. The problem arises and deepens when your partner does not know what you are expecting of her. Same applies for women that expect certain stuff out of their man. Expectation brings responsibilities and what I have seen so far in life, most people are not responsible. That were we get fights, breakups, and approximately 55% divorce rate in the United States. The lack of communication causes issues in the relation and creates problems. The last question  focuses on your higher motives in life. Where you want your life to be simply address your goals and dreams. For example, if your wife has a goal of opening up a small flower shop in the next five years, and you know this. This will help you both to stay motivated with the financing, show how much you care, and can allow you to discover how well you work together. A couple that work well together can go beyond the petty daily discussions and become something more.

Communication is the key to success I read once. We as people should do a better job communicating our thoughts, feelings, and ideas. It’s how others know what we want, and prove to us how they can be the people we need them to be.

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Have you ever been in a situation where someone said something to you, and instead of responding, you stayed quiet and smiled? I use to be one of those people that would smile and nod my head when someone said something intimidating to me and I had no response. It’s crazy how this world works. I am going to share my experience and you can either accept it or not, but let’s see if we can get a good discussion out of it.

As a young adult, I was considered soft spoken and noble. I would not dare respond to anyone especially a possible threat to me. I would simply accept the fault, either mine or the complainant and accept it and move on. However, as I grew up, I realized that more and more problems occur to me when I respond to them in this matter. So after a few life lessons, I decided to respond and demand things that are within my rights. Life seems to be more in tune with the way I operate when I respond to them accordingly. I realized that people cannot guess how I feel and what I want if I don’t ask for it.

What I suggest for everyone.

Since people cannot read minds and most people do not have emotional knowledge (people that can look for signs of how a person is doing emotionally and anticipate what they mind need) then what’s left is to simply speak up. If you are feeling annoyed about a specific thing at work, speak up. Simply call a meeting with your immediate supervisor and express your concerns. The more you let others know how you feel, the smoother your life will be. The less anger will build and less stress you would deal with. It does not matter the type of person you are. The less people speak, the more others take advantage of.

What I have noticed…

There was a time where two brothers lived together in a family of four. One of the brothers was demanding, even as a child. He would want everything when he went shopping with his mother and refuse to understand financial situations and how things work. The other brother was softer spoken. Thought four times before he asked for anything and refused to be a bother to anyone. Guess who had a more happy childhood. The demanding child got whatever he wanted and was happier than the other one. What they say is very true. Ignorance is really bliss. He never understood or simply didn’t care.

Refuse to understand and take what you need. We are all still animals with a mask we choose to wear. Some refuse to wear it and show their animal side. Others choose to hold higher values and standards. The one that uses the animal side and demands their rights wins in the end.

What if i told you a story, 

A story of dreams and desires.

What if i told you a story, 

A story of great proportion.

There was a young boy, 

That grew up in the streets.

The streets full of despair

and misery alike. 

There was a bright light, 

a shimmery glow.

The desire to succeed, 

given to him only at birth. 

The boy grew up willing, 

To struggle and fight.

He believed in the good, 

with every breath he took. 

Today he is grown, 

and life is not willing.

The daily struggles of existence, 

seems to haunt him much more.

Somewhere in time, 

he forgot what it was, 

to be living and free, 

in the streets of Hollywood hills. 

In his final hours,

surrounded by family and friends. 

He cried out for the heavens, 

to take him away.

He remembered his childhood, 

In the streets, in such despair,

Thinking to himself how he could, 

simply live once again. 

With his final last breath,

He finally remembered, 

the glow of existence,

he remembered, and left.